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1). How To Be Assertive Without Getting ANGRY
Sometimes our efforts to show our assertiveness
cross the line. We end up coming across as rude, aggressive
or downright belligerent.
Article tags: assertive, angry, assertiveness, aggressiveness, respect, confident
2). Assertiveness vs Aggression
When feelings are bottled up assertiveness can spill over into aggression, leaving the other person feeling attacked rather than reasoned with.
Article tags: assertiveness, aggression, skills, training, development
3). You Can't Play Win-Win With A Bully Until...
When being polite and understanding gets you nowhere, you may be trying to cooperate with a bully. It simply won't work. You must start by giving him a reason to listen to you.
Article tags: confrontation, complaint resolution, assertiveness, bullying, integrity, win/win negotiation
4). Go Where Your Energy is Strong
"Keep your center and you’ll know which way you have to go."
– Terry Dobson, aikidoist and author, Aikido In Everyday Life
I had undertaken a project that I was beginning to feel was beyond my personal resources to accomplish. I had asked a friend and colleague if I might organize a workshop in the New England area that he would teach. After many months of collecting information, I was at the point of choosing and committing to a conference center.
Article tags: saying no, assertiveness, ki, chi, inner voice, intuition, personal energy, energy, peace of mind, aikido, martial arts, gifts, unexpected gifts, personal power, centering, approval, approval-seeking
5). Advocate Respectfully
This is one of a series of brief articles on holding difficult conversations. In earlier issues of Ki Moments, I suggested ways to open communications that create mutual respect; we talked about the importance of knowing your purpose for the conversation; and we added Inquiry and Curiosity to our conversational toolbox. Here the topic is Advocacy.
Advocacy is the flip side of Inquiry – the opportunity that you open for yourself to tell your story.
Article tags: assertiveness, communication skills, holding difficult conversations, respect, advocacy, managing emotions, anger management, conflict management, aikido
6). Going For A Win-Win Result - A Guide To Being Assertive
"The basic difference between being assertive and being aggressive is how our words and behavior affect the rights and well being of others”
Sharon Anthony Bower
It is interesting that many people still confuse being assertive with being aggressive. How about you? Have you learnt the difference? Forgive me if you have, but for those of you who still aren’t quite clear, here is a quick guide to assertiveness – going for the win-win result.
Article tags: assertiveness, aggression, communication, confidence, clarity, relationships, respect, negotiation, anger
7). Overcome Conversation Power Plays: 5 Steps to Success
When you know you are supposed to "just shut up and listen," and you really want to get your point across, you have options. Follow these steps to reclaim your own power.
Article tags: communication problem, assertiveness, interpersonal problem, verbal problem, lisening problem
8). The Greatest Gift
"Go ahead, Judy, talk to your father. What do you want to say?" With these words offered by my favorite Aunt Mimi, I was given the greatest gift—the gift of myself.
Mimi and I had gone on an aunt-niece shopping adventure, and at age 15, I became the proud owner of my first mini-skirt. Upon seeing it, my dad hit the roof, and as usual, I was angry, scared, and tongue-tied.
Article tags: holding difficult conversation, assertiveness, family dynamics, holidays, christmas, gifts, self-awareness, centering, aikido, managing emotions, anger management, conflict management, communication skills
9). How to Double Your Romance with One-Way Dates
Copyright 2006 David Steele
Over time, couples can easily develop routines that become ruts and it seems like romance goes out the window.
Does this sound familiar?
Partner #1: “What do you want to do?”
Partner #2: “I don’t know, what do YOU want to do?”
Then they end up doing pretty much the same thing they have done before.
Couples can also fall into “compromise ruts,” where each gives up what they really want to do in order to find something they can both agree upon.
Article tags: love, romance, fun, happiness, fulfillment, assertiveness, choice, happy, success, marriage, couple, relationship, romantic