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1). Controlling Behavior, Loving Behavior
When Zack and Tiffany started counseling with me, they were on the verge of divorce after 16 years of marriage. Neither really wanted to end the marriage, yet both were miserable. Both of them believed that their misery was because of the other person, and both could clearly articulate what the other person was doing wrong.
“Tiffany is just so distant and unaffectionate most of the time, and when we are together she is so critical of me.
Article tags: controlling behavior, relationships, self improvement, self help, coaching
2). Recovery From Addictions, Part 4
In Part 1 of this series of articles, I defined substance and process addictions, and described the four major false beliefs that underlie most addictions:
1. I can’t handle my pain.
2. I am unworthy and unlovable.
3. Others are my source of love.
4. I can have control over how others feel about me and treat me.
Part 2 was about the first of these beliefs – learning how to handle pain.
Article tags: addiction, recovery, controlling behavior, drug addiction, alcoholism, weight issue, alcohol abuse, addiction recovery
3). The Purpose Of Shame
Many people on a healing path have found it extremely challenging to heal their shame. Yet when you understand the purpose of shame, you will be able to move beyond it.
Shame is the feeling that there is something basically wrong with you. Whereas the feeling of guilt is about DOING something wrong, shame is about BEING wrong at the core. The feeling of shame comes from the belief that, “I am basically flawed, inadequate, wrong, bad, unimportant, undeserving, or not good enough.
Article tags: shame, controlling behavior, core shame, self improvement, self help, personal growth
4). Is He Trying To Control You?
Relationship advice for women who feel like victims of controlling husbands. Discover how you are cooperating in maintaining such an unproductive relationship and explore your options for making critical changes.
Article tags: relationship advice, codependency, self-help, self-growth, controlling behavior, power struggle
5). Your Children Are On Their Own Soul's Journey
In a phone session with Gerald, one of my clients, he expressed to me that he was feeling very sad about his son, Luc. Luc, 29 years old, was not doing much with his life, and Gerald was berating himself for how he had parented Luc.
“I should have spent more time with him. I should have motivated him more. I should have been a better role model. I should have been more firm with him.
Article tags: parenting, parenting advice, children, controlling behavior, controlling children, soul