.: My Own Worst Enemy
By:Ronald Yip
Did you ever asked yourself "who is my own worst enemy"? Do you consider criminals roaming the dark street as your worst enemy? How about your boss who's killing you mentally and emotionally with stress and harsh words? The people in office who are engaging in graft and corruption, instead of helping those in need?
When something failed to work, we have many implications of who our enemies are; but we have one common foe who is the main cause of our failures and misfortunes, and we're not even aware of this opponent. You may not want to admit it, but our own worst enemy is ourselves.
Take for instance you are leading a few other colleagues in an important project for your company you work for. You and your team belongs to the steering committee but things seem to go wrong everywhere. Who do you blame when something goes wrong? You blame the people around you, the weather, maybe even God. But we are the ones who are in control of ourselves. We can change the outcome of our lives because we have the capacity to do that.
Ask yourself, it is our fear, jealousy, greed, etc. that is ruining our lives. Some people who never managed to get out of poverty blame the government or their jobs. Some even take their anger and frustration to the streets and wave their banners in demonstration in front of parliament house. But they're too afraid to try out new ventures that may improve their lives. They drag themselves to go to work on their 9 to 5 jobs. Then when the day is done, they watch TV and go out aimlessly having fun without seriously thinking of what great opportunity the future has in store for them, if only they would try to do something different with their lives.
Fear is your worst enemy
Fear has caused many to remain frigid and to never go out exploring the wonderful things this world has to offer. Lots of people would rather stay where they are in an unsatisfied state than to risk difficulties and obstacles for the sake of attaining their dreams. They find excuses for themselves not to try anything new. Befor they even start, they start telling themselves that their family will not support their idea anyway, and so they never take any action.
Jealousy and envy has also caused some relationship problems. Some people immediately jump to conclusions without first analyzing the situation. They let their sudden emotions control their behaviors without even thinking of the consequences that may result. As a result, if they're having problems with their relationships, they have no one else to blame but themselves. They have themselves to blame, if their lives are not getting any better.
This goes to show that we decide what will happen to us and we can control the outcome. Even under circumstances that are beyond our control, like natural calamities, we can still utilize to our best advantage the things that we have control of.
For instance, you got rejected by your dream girl. Some would just get drunk and feel miserable, thinking that it's the end of the world. Some will move onwards with their lives and find the best in what remains with them. See? It's really up to you. You decide if you want to have a good life or not.
You failed in your exams? So what? There's always another opportunity. Either you just sulk in sorrow or you can study harder to get a high score in the future. It's really up to you.
Don't cry over spilled milk. Concentrate on how you could get better in the future instead of get frustrated over your misfortunes. .
If we encounter problems, we can either succumb to it, or we can treat it as an opportunity to become stronger and to become better individuals. Winners would always treat their dilemmas as opportunities while losers would see problems in every opportunity and run away without a second thought.
Oh yes. As yourself again "Who is my own worst enemy?". But your worst enemy can also be your best friend. It's all up to you!
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Ronald Yip has been learning and applying intuitive and creative processes in personal, business and community life helping people in self improvement. Visit Self Improvement for more info.
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